“Nothing is so painful to the human mind as a great and sudden change.”
― Mary Shelley,
When I decided to make a change in my life from the old to the new, it was one of the hardest decisions that I ever had to make. I say that because in your life…your current situation, you can find yourself becoming complacent with where you are to the point that when it comes time to move on to something new to better yourself, you become scared and on the fence of either moving forward or stepping back. To the point that you start asking yourself, “Why should I move forward, when I am fine (safe) where I am at?”
I remember the time when I was working at a daycare getting paid $6.50 an hour and only getting paid once a month. The money was coming in slow and with two children, once you paid the bills, it was hard to maintain. Even though I found myself in a struggle a week after each payday, I started to become ok with what was going on. At one point, I even told myself, “well at least something was coming in”. I could have moved on to something better, but I found myself becoming complacent about my situation. I didn’t see the need to move on, or even cared about anything drastic happening in my life because I was more concerned about being “safe”. I felt that moving forward was too much, because I would risk loosing what was “guaranteed”. That of course was true… until I lost it all and change started to make its presence known. Suddenly, around the same time, I lost my job and my living situation started to become shaky. I had to make a decision and I was scared. I could’t run… I had to face it… I had to make a change.
When its time for you to grow, change has a way of putting you in a position to make a decision and pushing you out of your comfort zone. Yes it is scary at first, but you have to learn to identify the purpose of the change and decide if it is going to build or destroy you. The outcome is really in your hands. A lot of times, when it comes to change, sometimes its the possibility of what could happen (bad) that scares us more so that what actually happens. Change is inevitable, and like the changing seasons… its usually out of your control and happens no matter if you are ready or not, but how you deal with it is up to you.
What type of change did you have to deal with in your life? How did you handle it, did you run or did you face it head on?